Our counselors have helped many parents concerned about their millennial-age kids: Should they take a year off from their studies? Why do they seem like they lack direction? Should they take on more responsibility? Why aren’t they looking to settle down?
It can be a challenging road to walk. As I recently wrote in my post about young adults living at home with their parents, the Bible is largely silent on the topic of adult children. Also, “extended adolescence” – what some call the “Peter Pan Syndrome” – is still a relatively new phenomenon. It’s no wonder parents feel like their relationships with their 20- and 30-something children seem a bit like uncharted territory.
Today I wanted to offer those parents some good insight prepared by Boundless, Focus’ outreach to young adults. As Boundless works out its mission to help Christian singles and young adults prepare for marriage and family, it uses six “maturity markers” as guides.
I think that these principles of mature living will help parents better discern their adult child’s situation because it cuts through the trappings of modern life. It also delves into the heart issues that should be a parent’s main concern. In other words, what may seem unconventional to you might still be producing good fruit. Conversely, the decisions the Millennial in your life is making may be what everyone’s doing – but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s what your daughter or son should be doing.
So, here are the six markers of maturity parents can teach their young kids, and encourage their older children to reach.
2. Accountable involvement in a Gospel-centered church community
3. Willingness to master life skills and shoulder responsibility
4. Is a contributor to the community and a leader in spheres of influence
5. Ability to sustain and grow healthy relationships with family, friends, neighbors and co-workers
6. Is actively pursuing marriage and family or the next stage of life
I’m interested to know what you think about this list. How do your kids measure up? Do you think it’s complete? Is there any point you’d add or take away?
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